Resilience is bouncing back or adapting from difficult experiences. While Resilience can be learned and developed it takes action and self awareness to build it up. So, this is what I know… A lot of us set goals and many times we fail to follow through due to some unexpected event that steers us off our plan.
I know that we have all found ourselves in a situation where we were happily following a plan of getting fitter and healthier and then something happens like one of the kids get sick or maybe we got sick or there was a big emergency at work and it threw us off of our schedule. Or even worse, a separation occurred, a death in the family or maybe even a natural disaster like a hurricane rerouted your normal life. I know I’ve been there but instead of living in self defeat there are ways we can actually build our resilience so that we are stronger and adapt to whatever life throws our way. I’m not saying it’s easy, or it will happen over night but I do know from experience that you can start building your resilience by doing the following things I’m going to share.
The first one is to make connections. When you participate in civic groups, faith based organizations or other groups that provide social support it can help you reclaim hope and strengthen your resilience. Many of us turn to family or friends but sometimes you need a little more help getting through some of life’s tough situations.
Second is to avoid viewing problems as impossible. I understand that we respond to stress in a reactive way and think the worst but take a pause and be aware of the situation. In that moment remind yourself nothing is impossible and proceed with an open mind. Look for the little things that can help you feel better. Try not to fall into a negative zone and choose positive thoughts to help you have faith.
Third, take clear actions. It’s important that you act on difficult situations as much as you can. Taking positive actions rather than detaching completely from your problems and wishing they would just go away is a better approach.
Fourth, move towards your goals. Reassess and develop realistic goals and try to go back to your regular schedule. Every small success helps you regain confidence and move toward your final destination. Consistency is key and remember to celebrate the small wins.
Number five, maintain a hopeful outlook. An optimistic attitude enables you to expect that good things will happen in your life. Visualize what you want rather than worrying about what you fear. I know that’s easier said than done so it’s important that you keep a journal and write down what your hopeful for and visualize it in your mind.
Finally, the sixth thing to becoming more resilient is to take care of yourself. Pay attention to your own needs and feelings. It’s important that you participate in activities that you enjoy and find relaxing like your meditation, enjoying time for you and doing the things that you love. Taking care of yourself helps keep your mind and body prepared to deal with stressful situations.